By Theophilus Keme
You are really beautiful. I know you feel very glad that you are this attractive, knowing society tend to make it easier and be kind to the beautiful ones.
–Thanks for the kind words, but no thanks. You know It is not as easy as you think. She said.
Yes I am most grateful to nature, to my parents and foremost to God for my biological features as a lady, but the truth is, it is not as easy as people make it seem, that I easily get whatsoever I want, or am solely treated any sort of differently from others because of my features. Yes perhaps I may be treated differently in some extent, but it is not as easy as you think.
She continued. As a matter of fact I feel these features of being an attractive lady has perhaps given me great concerns of worries to work twice as hard than every other person in any given task, because already the society unassumingly place us up in a rank that would always need ladies like me to meet up their expectations despite its pressure.
An expectation that doesn’t first inquire if we are truly capable, comfortable to living up to what they are demanding from us.
Perhaps i should take you a bit of a journey of my experiences thus far and also a bit of my experiences during my school days in UNIBEN to answer what you supposedly assume is easy in what being attractive is about in our society. Honestly speaking, It was really difficult to be free in expressing myself like other students, to play like them or acknowledge that I have failed an assessment because I don’t truly understand the answers to the given questions. The teachers/lecturers all unassumingly feel due to how smart looking one looks or how fine a person looks, he or she is presumed must be smart, or even smarter than others in the class as the case may be. And if these, their suppose all glorious presumption of a fine student is wrong, they inadvertently have this disgust and disappointment in their face, like a form of pity that the IQ fails to match the students beauty or or there is a lacking. Which I find very annoying.
These not to mention the place of harassment and assaults, verbally, physically and sexually otherwise that we easily become subjected to, in and off campus grounds from men and from our own gender. From men, some of them have these perception and think that the reason for a pretty ladies success in class and outside class is based on what the pretty lady may be getting from lecturers or other wealthy men. Some even make allege claims that we are nothing on our own and incapable of being resourceful or skilled but to sell our body in prostitution in order to achieve whatsoever successes we are having.
These harassment also comes from my own gender, as due to how much some of us become preferred to get all kind gestures from other people in different scenarios as the case may be, they become provoked and jealous, embittered. This brings me to one time experience I had with a suppose friend, who had to tarnish my image and reputation to someone who had genuinely promised to be of assistance to me, just to make the person to withdraw their kind gestures.
So you see, they are a lot to these than you think.
Many at times my needs as a lady do I try not to make known to my cycle of friends or even to members of immediate family. As they allege I have got all of things under control when I absolutely don’t in most cases, but this regardless, do they continue to live in the presumptive that all my financial needs are met, for there is definitely a somebody somewhere who by the snap of a finger tip attends to all my demands. Perhaps because of the number of people they supposedly think I hang out with, which in most cases isn’t what they think. The truth is, In most cases majority of the people/friends they see me with are longing after something in return of which I can’t possibly give, or they keep up with pretense to be patiently waiting on something they’d eventually need from me.
So by you or anyone insinuating that they know how much a pretty lady is more favored in the society or of how things are made easy for them due to their attractive looks is totally a wrong perspective that must be changed. In short, it’s a wrong perspective to have about every beautiful person you see out there be it male or female, things are not easy for anyone as you think.
You have no idea the mental battle some of these ladies are forced to go through just because Society wants them to be perfect in all ramifications. Society make the beautiful ones seem they are not allowed to make mistakes, not allowed to engage in a simple profiting venture even though it’s reward isn’t stupendous for a flamboyant lifestyle. They make it seem beautiful women ought not to plan their marital journey with a man whom is yet to have a established career, a man who is yet to have all the luxuries to manage a home with it. These thought and fear is why majority of the beautiful ladies we see today with all features are yet to be maritally settled, why? because they’d allowed the society talk them to be proud of their looks and go for only what meet their biological standard and features.
Even though it’s undebatable that good looks attract hands of friendship from others and getting kind gestures from more people even from strangers than the people with average looks, it should still not be a thing of segregation or a prejudice of how one should be perfect because of he’s or her looks.
We are all humans, and by looks i doubt anyone on earth foremost created him or herself of their desired features, shapes, and sizes that they did want to possess in their mothers womb. Everyone actually need to make the “you are pretty and must be getting good success” thing lie low, and stop the unnecessary pressure they make us the beautiful ones feel. It’s just beauty, no pressure.
