By Theophilus Keme
“I love to love, who else doesn’t? I suppose everyone does”. This he says to her teasingly as it was the beginning of the practice of ‘Predilection to be exclusive’
I know there have been a lot of stories about marriages and plenty advises here and there from our supposed internet marriage counselors of not to compare love stories as there is no perfect marriage or a perfect love story anywhere. This, regardless I want to honestly give big accolade to these duo, Davido and Chioma Adeleke.
Their relationship from its onset like every other romance-story had it’s up and downs which as usual caused a lot of internet counseling and advises from fans, supporters and even haters. This nevertheless, despite the much challenges and temptations that had come their way ‘love’ still triumph, or should I rather say ‘discipline’ triumph?. I really applaud Davido for confirming the possibility and being a worthy example of what i call the ‘Predilection To Be Exclusive’ in his relationship with his lovely wife, Chioma Adeleke. As a man of David Adeleke’s statute with a successful booming career in the music industry, he could easily erase the idea of being committed to one woman, and also, a beautiful woman like Chef Chioma, she can easily have any billionaire man drooling over her if she wants to in a snap of finger tips. But neither of them settled for anything outside themselves but fought to nurture the affection they share with each other despite the temptations.
Like I fondly tell people around me, ‘this life no suppose hard’. Nothing by any means should put one in immerse pressure or tight position for one to think he is carrying the whole world alone on his/her shoulders or that he/she don’t have a place in this life. By this, i literally mean and extends it to every other thing that concerns one’s existence from growing up as a child, to career selection and also to finding true love. Yes, true love! Life no suppose hard!
I know you may say finding true love is hard these days, as it has become rare to find true love especially since even some perfect celebrity couples over time by their breakups prove a lot of us wrong on their own imperfections in maintaining and remaining in love regardless. But the facts still remains that ‘Life no suppose hard’, as in being simple with our choices and at each point accept and discipline ourselves, we will always thrive in whatever phase we are in, even in relationships.
Chioma, who was said to have inspired Davido’s “Assurance” in 2018, officially became Davido’s fiancee in 2019 after the singer announced their engagement and introduction. As he also revealed that he would get married to the chef in 2020, with the hashtag #Chivido2020 after they welcomed their son, Ifeanyi in October 2019. Like every love story with its up and downs, In mid 2020, love turned sour as the duo was rumoured to have had some issues, (this I want to believe OBO must have played an off-card game which got Chioma uncomfortable, if you know what I mean) as they also unfollowed each other on their insta pages and Chioma deleting pictures of her man.
However, they later resumed following back each other and give love another chance. In 2021 similar threat reoccurred this coming amid speculations that the relationship between the couple is no longer as rosy as it used to be. As pictures of Davido kissing an American Instagram model, Mya Yafai, had gone viral (like I said earlier, it is always OBO that plays the off-card game) as it was rumored he was in a relationship with Yafai.
However despite the rumours bedeviling the relationship, Davido and Chioma still always seem to fight their way back, as their son Ifeanyi, was like the magnet of their reunion and truly despite his demise where everyone feared that the duo may no longer tie the knot, Davido and Chioma took the most unbelievable step which is also most applaudably matured to quietly tie the knot. And today they are officially Mr & Mrs Adeleke, a family and also blessed with a set of twins.
This their love story I call ‘Predilection to be exclusive’ in the sense that they share a special liking for each other yet so simple. So simple to the point that they have chosen the road to be disciplined, most especially Davido, as he stops seeing status or the temptations of what he would be missing if he doesn’t tie the knot being married to Chioma. This becomes completeness.
Ps. Among all the modes by which love is brought into being, among all the agents which disseminate that blessed bane, there are only a few so real that sweeps each and everyone of us off our feet from time to time.
The person whose company we enjoy at the moment seem is the person we must henceforth find love with. As It is not even necessary for that person to have attracted us, or be very beautiful, no, all that we as individuals want is the predilection to be exclusive. The persons whose company who enjoy the most, the person who we don’t pretend to being our real selves with as they like and accept us for who and what we are. Even as we make it the sole decision to be disciplined amongst ourselves in becoming better version of ourselves.
And if that condition is fulfilled, then there are no more deprivation, or any absurdity, as we will both find enteral pure bliss in being in the presence of each other and in likeness of whatsoever the other person likes.
